Could be either, could be a bit of both. Hard to say really. My guess is the last one.
Now go do your chores, you lazy little hottie.
🧹🧽☺️
Damn your GF wasn’t kidding 😳😳
It’s an actual thing. When it feels more like you have a teenage son than a partner it’s hard to get turned on by them, even if you weren’t already too exhausted from clearing up after them.
So much this. Working all day is exhausting. So is keeping the house. Having to do both all of the time when you have an able-bodied partner? Gross. No one wants an adult child as a partner.
Men have no idea just how exhausting it is to have to carry all of that weight. Well, some do, I’m sure. I haven’t met any, personally, but that doesn’t mean they’re not out there.
Having a partner that is an actual partner gives you the room to breathe and relax. And honestly, that is the real turn on.
I’m a man who had to do this. My partner was going through some pretty rough times in grad school, then left school, and had a lot of mental health work to go through. I was trying to be supportive, but we had to have a few conversations where I said that I didn’t find her exactly attractive in the moment because it felt like I was more of a guardian than a partner. It’s gotten a lot better since then, but it can be hard when your partner is going through hard times (or is just lazy, in some cases) and doesn’t see things as you do.
Everyone needs to put in effort. It doesn’t need to be symmetrical (meaning you don’t have to do all the same things), but it should be approximately equal in terms of effort in both the relationship and your living situation
Men have no idea just how exhausting it is to have to carry all of that weight. Well, some do, I’m sure. I haven’t met any, personally
When did this become about gender politics…?
But yikes.
Imagine the horror of I said the same statement but reversed the genders, and the stereotype.
This isn’t a stereotype, it’s a well-documented sociological phenomenon. Women typically do the majority of unpaid / organizational labor in a household, even when they work full-time outside the home. And part of why this is such a problem is that this work is often not witnessed or acknowledged by their partners, or even dismissed as “unimportant”.
I know it’s yikes. It felt icky to write it out, but I did because its true. It’s well documented that women are far more likely to be “running the house” even when working full time. So many articles, podcasts, and books have been written about it. There’s even a comic floating around the internet. (https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/)
Look, you’re not entirely wrong. But this is a very gendered experience (as in, disproportionately affects women). Of course it happens the other way around, just nowhere near as often. You don’t have to get so fucking defensive about it. This is the world you live in, deal with it.
Was gonna make a Ghislaine Maxwell joke but stopped myself.
My wife calls it “chore-play” and it seems to really work for her. Even if its a trick, the house will be clean and everyone gets a little fun, what’s the harm?
Independence and self respect is sexy, and doing chores is a form of independence (you know how take of yourself) and is a form of self respect (you don’t let yourself live in filth). It also implies that you don’t view your gf as the designated house maid and not being humiliated/burdened like that is a big relief, especially for women who grew up around sexism. Who might have internalized the idea that men doing chores is on par with something like gift giving or going on dates, something special done out of love, and not just something that needs to be done. She could genuinely find you doing chores sexy, but also having to do less chores is a bonus no matter who you are, it can be both.
What if I like doing 50% of the chores, and the other 50% I truly hate and never do unless it’s a matter of life and death?
I live alone so my place is a total mess in 50% of chores, and perfect in the other 50%. So judging by my place, I’m not independent, I’m barely 50% there.
So if I got a GF and we were a match with regards to who’s doing which chores, would it be a way to get the best of both worlds? I would still do my 50% of chores but the place would be neat? And now I would appear independent and thus sexy?
However, in order to get the full effect, we would have to come up with a good schedule so that when I do my chores, she’s not doing her chores and she can fully admire me doing my 50% of chores, and vice versa. 🤔
Sounds like an idea for a new kind of dating page… 🤓
Some women’s libido goes down from the stress of seeing a lot of chores needing to be taken care of. Doing those chores reduced the stress. Going further and doing what is normally their share of housework can be an act of affection.
It’s also noted in a study of women asked to rate a number of pictures of men on various factors including attractiveness and reliability. When they are also asked for dating preferences, as the age range went up, the prioritization on reliability ratings also went up. Doing chores is reliable AF.
More to the point, she’s already told you she likes it. Just believe her.
This could be climate-related. She might mean you’re working too hard and need to cool off. Try to stay hydrated out there because you’re looking hot.
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Don’t forget to bring a towel!
You should read The Five Love Languages. This is an actual thing. Different people express and receive love differently. “Acts of Kindness” is one of them. My partner loves when i do things, and i know this, so i do it because i know it makes her feel loved. And that’s hot.
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Gonna go take any, if I even get them, future dates to a car wash and wash eh hell out of cars. Or bring them home and just clean.
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In my experience it’s both 😁
It’s definitely both. Love when my husband puts work and effort into our home and life together. 😍😍
It’s such a bummer he’s so tired after all the chores lol
Hire a pool boy so your husband doesn’t get tired. Pool boys have more stamina too
Devil on her shoulder right here
Could be real, either way I definitely get laid more when I do stuff around the house. I read a study that basically suggested doing chores helps because it relieves the stress of your partner, freeing them up to feel a little more amorous.
Just say you feel the same way when she does chores
i think dudes are hot when they just sit around and do nothing, with their shirt off of course, so what do i know
If I push my tummy out while sitting on the couch I can hold a beer on it like Homer Simpson
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Take it from me, men who do chores around the house are so hot.
So are men who buy tickets to “Barbie”.
Sending positive Kenergy
Will do :)
The question is really why does she have to trick you into doing chores? :')
It could be, but from my personal experience, nothing sexier than a person who can take care of shit that needs to be taken care of. You don’t know how many men don’t do this and how many women enable it by tolerating it. It’s a complete turn off when I find out a dude can’t and expects me to pick up the slack
