Yeah I’ve also been really frustrated by this attitude. My advice is to look for local groups of activists and see what you can do to help. Being part of a local coalition can be a very motivating thing and even just being in their discord or matrix servers or whatever can be a good way to get information. I found a local trans activist group that has a user providing daily political bulletins on what kind of stuff is going on around the city. Talking with these people and seeing what is going on feels a lot more optimistic and tangible than the stuff I see posted here