I remember trying to listen to Radio Caroline under my duvet on an am portable radio as a kid. This film is loosely based on their story. Great cast. Absolute junk film - one of only four films (in any language) I’ve ever switched off before the end… but that’s just my opinion. I hope you enjoy it.
I think you’re correct that (some / many) people see the tiniest chink in your armour and go for the juggler (jugular vein - clown 🤡 joke) to compound your misery to make themselves feel/look “strong”.
And, yes, in abusive relationships I believe a husband is more likely to hurt and damage his wife with his fists whereas a wife would be more likely to hurt and damage her husband with words - generally speaking. It’s tragic either way…