Truffle

This is a big one for me too. Knowing stuff will work or get replaced easily did wonders for my mental health. It is still a process to not live with the “check engine light on” mentality but rather trying to soothe oneself by breathing and knowing that, for this ocassion, it can be handled… and still filling up my car’s tank with gas in case I get lost in the City.

I like reading this poem whenever I’m feeling like I’m about to lose it. It helps me find my center again:

Just Let them.

If they want to choose something or someone over you, let them.

If they want to go weeks without talking to you, let them.

If they are okay with never seeing you, let them.

If they are okay with always putting themselves first, let them.

If they are showing you who they are and not what you perceived them to be, let them.

If they want to follow the crowd, let them.

If they want to judge or misunderstand you, let them.

If they act like they can live without you, let them.

If they want to walk out of your life and leave, hold the door open, and let them.

Let them lose you. You were never theirs, because you were always your own. So let them.

Cassie Phillips

It is! We were expecting him back in January.

No of course not. They deserve to know the truth and share the joy.

Kind of related: The barn where my kid goes to for lessons has an option for the horse owners that in case their animal dies (there are strict rules about the cause of death etc), the animal’s corpse can be donated to the local zoo to feed carnivores.

My SO works from another continent from time to time, he has been gone for a month now but today he told me that he’s going to be home for christmas. My kid is going to be over the moon!

Dude, that would have been a great start for my day, like, first accomplishment done! Plus it is great coming back home to a “no chore house” as we call it: No garbage to take out, no meal to cook, no toys to be picked up, no laundry to be fold, etc. I absolutely love the feeling of it.

This sucks. I am sorry for your absolutely devastating decision, OP. It is so hard and so hurtful to have to choose and yet there is so much grace and love in doing so. I am sending you a hug and the promise that he will be hurting no more❤️

She’s a cutie! What’s her name? I like her coat.

Mejor dicho, imposible. Yo aún tenía la esperanza de que la Suprema Corte de Justicia pudiera bloquear la reforma, pero está cañón con todo el arrastre que tiene M0rena.

Chihuly’s work maybe?

She was selected and placed there as a mere puppet of current president amlo. México is indeed a narco governement but people who don’t actuallly experience it first hand living it every day think that this facade is true. She was married to a guy who was investigated for embezzlent but got off the hook because of political contacts. Her father was a chemist who owned a solvent factory (he has passed away and she inherited the business) with very sketchy practices regarding toxic waste management. Factory is still hers and it still operating under the same principles.

It would be lovely to have a chance to experience hiking/ backpacking like this!

I have the feeling you were born and raised in the US and have never experienced life outside your own town/ city and just spew your opinion about places and situations you know absolutely nothing about. So let me enlighten your narrow anglo vision a bit:

Have you ever lived through something like what is described in the article? Have you ever experienced what a narcoestado entails? Have you ever been in a protest along searching mothers outside Palacio Nacional because ten thousand people disappeared in your country due to organized crime for this fool to keep having breakfast saying “they only want to destabilize my regime” and not even acknowledge your presence? Have you ever been blackmailed and had to pay organized crime to keep your business open for this president to say “abrazos, no balazos” ( hugs, not bullets)? Has anyone from your family been kidnapped for ransom money? If so, did you get help from governement agencies? With all of the above, how would you feel about your president saying the things in the article? I have experienced all of the above scenarios so kindly, stfu.

He is a demagogue through and through, all his term has been a joke and he has been fluffed up by his minions telling him what a wonderful man he is. Barf!

Whoa! Lots of assumptions there, pal. Projection much?

I never said it was cheating or a shortcut, that was all you. I never said people like you should die. You do you and good if it has worked so far, but that does not mean that it is going to work for every single person who gets this suggested by their doctor.

That does not mean that every person getting this surgery comes out of it scot free forever, look at the data. Sorry to burst your bubble.

Calling me judgemental is not te flex you think it is.

Carry on.

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Johansson K , Svensson PA, Soderling J, Peltonen M, Neovius M, Carlsson LMSet al. Long-term risk of anaemia after bariatric surgery: results from the Swedish Obese Subjects study. Lancet Diabetes Endocrinol2021

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Yes, but also that weightloss from bariatric surgery comes with many unhealthy side effects:

Dumping; calcium, Iron, folate, vitamin A, B1,B12,D malabsortion; malnutrition, ulcers, refractory late dumping; increased risk of postoperative abuse of alcohol; depression; anxiety; increased mortality from suicide (so much for decreased mortality for not being fat anymore); more risk of colorectal cancer; Barret’s oesophagus (premalignant condition for oesophageal adenocarcinoma), etc.

So how come this is healthier for someone? Is it a case or choosing a poison? How come anesthesia is a risk for life saving surgeries for fat people but that risk evaporates when it comes to bariatric procedures? So which is it? “We want you thinner” or “We want you healhy”?

Spot on comment. “But, but, but obesity” Yeah correlation is not causation, when will people get off of the better than thou train.

Being healthy is more than just how much people weight and it baffles me that so many comments here are tone deaf about how it is not as easy as CICO and criticize people who live in larger bodies.

Beautiful shot! I love the darker background.