Even if a majority if indigenous folks didn’t mind the label, it’s still a label born of ignorance. It’s not like it becomes just OK because the surviving oppressed minority incorrectly labelled that way by the colonists are OK with it.

yeah, I’m not really doubting OP’s intentions, I’m just trying to clue them in to how others might see their post so they aren’t surprised if it gets flagged

I think race issues were apparent to me as a young child, but it took the form of feeling insecure and unsure how to interact with racial minority peers of mine in school and so on, not wanting to make them feel uncomfortable but feeling fragile around them and thus accidentally introducing stigma. It was an awful feeling, and something that just didn’t happen with other students.

Just a warning, your question might be interpreted as violating rule 5:

Rule 5- No baiting or sealioning or promoting an agenda.

That said, I don’t see why cringing about racism is controversial, if anything it’s the majority view that racism is bad.

If you are genuinely interested in learning about where racism comes from, feel free to read: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Racism

Aristotle for example argued that non-Greek slaves innately lacked a will and thus depended on their Greek masters as rulers the way children depend on their parents (he made similar arguments justifying the supremacy of men over women). These views have a long history, and it’s worth learning about. You might start with the culture you are in (not sure if you’re from the U.S. or not) and read a few academic primers about race and the history of race in your culture.

You might also wonder what race is, and for philosophical questions about race I would start here: https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/race/

rsync is not really comparable to syncthing, it’s like comparing Excel to C++ or something. I need to be able to get lay people to install and use it, and syncthing has a UI that allows this while even I would have to do some work to get rsync to do everything syncthing is doing for me right now.

is there a more efficient alternative that isn’t centralized?

nuts also go rancid, not exactly “non-perishable”

Spaghetti is pretty popular, maybe pasta and pre-made / canned pasta sauces would be welcome additions? I wouldn’t overthink the nutrition, focusing on what is desirable / pleasurable is more relevant esp. with how fortified foods are these days. Maybe canned chili, boxed mac-and-cheese, hamburger helper, and other easy and tasty meals would work? Honestly I would just ask the people there what they like to eat and then stock that, if possible 😅

Who are the main consumers of the food pantry? That will tell you a lot about what kinds of foods will or won’t work. If a person has a kitchen, for example, it’s a different situation than being on the street.

lol, this is just a great sentence is a great post

At first I read the title as “I’m sick of my teen son waking up early to make me a multiple course meal for breakfast” and I reflected on how bizarre your relationship with your son is.

Anyway, that’s a lot of delicious food 😍

yesss

CW: self-harm

I enjoyed self-harming and feeling pain when I was dissociating a lot, I think there are clearly examples where people inflict pain on themselves for non-sexual and non-religious (i.e. not for punitive / atoning) reasons. Besides some kinds of self-harm, eating spicy food seems like a clear example of this. Pain releases endorphins, you can get high on pain. For what it’s worth, I also have enjoyed every physical trauma I have experienced (being hit by a car, being thrown over the handlebars of my bicycle at speed and my face hitting the asphalt first, etc.).

yeah, was going to say - there have been trans mass shooters, lol

Another notable case:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Colorado_Springs_nightclub_shooting

Aldrich’s attorneys have said in court documents that their client identifies as non-binary and uses they/them pronouns, preferring to be addressed as Mx. Aldrich. Neighbors allege Aldrich to have made hateful comments towards the LGBT community in the past, including frequent usage of homophobic slurs. Aldrich never mentioned being non-binary prior to the shooting and was referred to with masculine pronouns by family members. Police testified they found rainbow-colored shooting targets in Aldrich’s home. Experts in online extremism have voiced the possibility that Aldrich’s proclaimed self-identification could be disingenuous, while the Center for Countering Digital Hate acknowledges the suspect’s past actions and impact on the LGBT community.

I am personally inclined to agree that the self-identification is likely disingenuous, a stunt for the courtroom (maybe to make it harder to argue he committed hate crimes).

I took my partner’s last name because I like their family more than mine, and I liked the idea of no longer being associated with my family.

But I think most people just want to do what is normal or expected of them, so I would imagine that is why most women change their name. Not doing so would go against the grain, putting them in awkward situations where they have to explain they didn’t take the last name.

Since I transitioned I’ve been thinking a lot about how little I knew about trans people until I realized I was one and then took much more seriously educating myself.

It makes me feel ashamed because of how little I understand so many other oppressed groups, and how little true empathy I have. Even if on the surface I have respect for people and consider myself an “ally” to various groups, I feel I should do more than just signal respect and support. Maybe it’s an unrealistically high bar, but my conscience certainly thinks I need to do more to empathize with and better understand other groups.

I can’t help but feel my default tendency is towards a kind of accidental tribalism - I understand perspectives I choose to engage with and understand and this results in a cultural cloistering, an accidental in-and-out-grouping because of how I naturally do or don’t understand someone’s life experience based on my own. Unless I go out of my way to do a lot of work to understand other perspectives, I otherwise won’t be likely to do that.

It’s OK, being closeted was worse. :-)

I didn’t realize having the wrong sex hormones in your body can mess up your mind - I was struggling with depression, anxiety, suicidal ideation, etc. for decades that were entirely unnecessary. A socially harder life with the right sex hormones is still much better than a closeted life with the wrong hormones. It was a hard lesson to learn, though.

especially when they’re also privileged and unaware of what it’s like to be a minority - I don’t really know how to cross that divide, though. I guess a cis man could cross-dress in public and see how it feels, see how they are treated.

I accept at this point that everyone is a hypocrite, including myself. I still tend to think some people are worse hypocrites than others, lol

https://old.reddit.com/r/flexibility/comments/9212b8/dont_know_where_to_start_click_here/

Splits

This splits routine was created for the 90-day challenge and will give you quick results by stretching every day.

If you just want to take it a bit slower, here’s a follow-along video for every other day.

Hit a plateau in your splits training? Try these brutal but effective loaded progressions. Here and here. Oh, and here.

agreed, the title should be edited

EDIT: instead of “shemale” a more appropriate phrase might be like pre-op trans woman or something like that