I started therapy and my therapist helped me see that my fucked-up childhood left me with lots of triggers, which we examined. Understanding those triggers reduced their power. I also now understand I can leave stressful situations before I blow up. I don’t have to constantly mask.

So, therapy. It’s awesome. If your first therapist isn’t a good fit it’s ok to find another one.

Confirmed, Connect supports tagging.

Whenever I get into an argument with someone on the Internet and I keep arguing with them past the point I should stop (it’s useless or I’m just wicked frustrated) I set up a monthly donation to something that would piss them off. And that’s why I have monthly donations to Sesame Street, the ACLU, and the SPLC.

“A lie can travel halfway around the world while the truth is still putting on its shoes.”

Or, if you have an inkling that you won’t split everything evenly, at least talk to the kids about it. My mom has 2 kids. She’s told me she’s giving a greater proportion to my brother and I’m ok with that.

My brother is a drug addicted felon and has always needed/gotten more support than I have needed/gotten.

I’m distant from my mom by choice (we didn’t have a healthy relationship) and I’m a functioning adult with a lovely partner, a stable job, and a competent therapist.

Mom’s told me she’s putting things into a trust for benefit of my brother, but I don’t know that she’s done that and it’s not my problem.

Anyways, I guess the takeaway is it’s ok for your kids to think dividing the inheritance unevenly means you love them unevenly if they’re not wrong.

They’re clearly “supposed to” do both. They are both male and female. It’s a sort of super power. /s

I took all my meds on time, and so did my dog.

Oh! I also baked a pizza and it was really tasty. Pup didn’t get pizza, but did get oven-dried fish skins and he’s really happy about that.

It is hard to find onion-free chicken stock. My dog goes nuts for chicken but is a fussy eater otherwise, so we’re always on the lookout for dog-friendly stock to add to his kibble.

I don’t eat pig and Applebee’s adds bacon to their Mac and cheese. They list like 8 different cheeses in the description but don’t mention the bacon. Parents didn’t want me to make a fuss so I ate it. That was not fun. (This was years ago, ymmv, I don’t talk to those parents anymore because reasons.)

Me and mine have various food sensitivities (latex, nightshades, pork). I use an android app “fig” to check things at the grocery store–scan the barcode and Fig tells me who shouldn’t eat it and why. It does smart things like label “spices” as yellow because maybe it’s peppers maybe it’s not. The free version is sufficient for one person. The paid version lets you add more profiles.

I was just as alert after the first 3 alerts as after the 8th. The additional alerts didn’t tell me anything new, they just gave me alarm fatigue.

And yes, it was bad. Roads were flooded. Buildings were flooded. People were evacuated. People died.

I finally went in and did this a couple weeks ago. We were under flash flood advisory and every time the end timestamp was updated, we got another “severe” alert. I didn’t need 8 very loud alerts going off over the course of a quiet evening at home.

I’m too pale AF to have a loving relationship with the sun. I’ve been burned too many times. I always use protection, but last weekend the sunscreen failed me :(

My dad used to disable the motherboard speaker because the noises games made back then were more annoying than fun. We eventually got a soundcard, and that was awesome.

Makes sense. I’m a librarian and we still use cards from the old card catalog for notes.

Come on, I’m counting on you!

This last election, I googled the candidates and voted for the ones that hadn’t tried to ban books at the local library.

It’s from OCHA’s daily brief.

I did math on this part of the report:

10,022 reported fatalities 2550 women 4104 children.

Subtract the children, you get 5918 adult fatalities. (10,022 - 4104=5918)

Edit: the “Data on Casualties” is, like I mentioned, slower to update. There’s a date filter–the fatalities listed are from earlier conflicts in the region, or in Israel or the West Bank.

Take a look at this daily brief put out by OCHA (UN Office for the Coordination of Humanitarian Affairs). It’s dated 6 November 2023.

Their “Data on Casualties” tracker is more detailed in its breakdown, but is slower to update (as noted on that page).

Edit: So, of 5918 adult fatalities listed, 2550 (43%) were women. It’s not clear to me at first glance if the remaining 57% are men, or if there are some undetermined folks mixed in.

Are you suggesting that

• that Hamas is importing kids from outside of Gaza into Gaza, or
• There’s parts of Gaza that aren’t an active war zone that Gazan children can be brought from ?

Thanks for the clarification. It’s hard to tell these days and I don’t always have the spoons/mental bandwidth for it.